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Feelin’ Feminine – The Week in Review

Seven days have passed and the challenge is over.  I’m actually feeling rather sad about that.  The only trousers I’ve worn have been PJs.  The rest of my life has been wrapped in skirts and addresses.  I promised, when I started, that I’d review the experiment and have a go at the suggested questions when it was done so here we go!

How was the experience for you?  Positive.  It’s forced me to think about how I look and behave and I’ve found life more pleasant when I’ve made an effort with my appearance.

Any particular stories?  My garage experience.

Did wearing skirts rather than pants affect the way you felt?  I’ve felt different this week – lighter and prettier – but I would attribute this to an overall making an effort rather than specifically wearing skirts.  I’ve been doing the hair’n’makeup thing most days and that’s what seems to have the greatest beneficial effect.

The way you felt about yourself?  Yes.  I feel more confident and positive about myself when I’m looking nice.  Today I’ve made no effort at all and feel rotten.  A shower is in order after lunch, I think.

The way you acted?  I don’t notice a great deal of difference here.  I’m not a tom-boy even wearing my slouchiest jeans!

The way you carried yourself?  Maybe.  I feel more valued when looking nice and that probably translates to my posture.  Actually, I have noticed myself holding my tummy in and that can only be good!

Were you able to go about everyday activity as freely as in pants?  I’ve not felt restricted this past week.  The only time I can see skirts being a problem is if I have to walk a distance and it’s too hot to wear tights.  I’m over-weight and the tops of my legs tend to rub.

How did people respond?  The main difference I noticed was at the garage on Day 3.  Everyone has been pleasant to me this week but I’ve not really encountered any other challenging situations.

Were you more respected?  At the garage, yes.  Interestingly enough, I had to take the car back in first thing on Day 4.  I was still wearing a skirt, but hadn’t done the hair’n’makeup thing and there was a marked difference in the mechanic’s attitude.  Maybe he’s not a morning person either but things didn’t improve much when I collected my vehicle that afternoon.

Did you feel more like a lady?  Yes!  Yes!  Yes!  And what’s more, I liked it!

After the challenge, do you desire to keep wearing skirts more regularly, or were you desperate to wear pants again?  I didn’t notice so much of a difference between shorts and trousers.  But I do notice a difference between taking some care with my appearance and hanging out in slob-ville.  It’s harder to be a slob in a skirt for some reason.  So I’m thinking I should resolve to make an effort no matter which mode of dress best suits the activities of the day.  With that in mind, it’s time for this slob to turn herself around …

Feelin’ Feminine: Day 3

On Sunday I didn’t know I starting this challenge but I looked OK for Mass with a navy blue dress and having done the hair’n’makeup thing.

On Monday it was a struggle to do anything as I’d a migraine but, for the hours during which I was out-of-bed, I did wear a skirt.

Today I was out of the house super-early so the cleaner could clean.  Wearing a skirt was a hassle (as I had to wear tights – it’s cold at the moment) and, really, thinking about my appearance didn’t go beyond basic personal hygiene.  Anyway, I hid in a cafe for a couple of hours and returned home to a clean flat and this is always good.

This afternoon, I needed to take my car down to Kwik Fit as it’s been noisy for a while and, I thought, probably needed something-or-other done to the thingamy-jig.  As you can tell, I know my auto-mechanics.  And this is where the story becomes relevant and interesting.

Usually, to visit a garage, I wear jeans with trainers and a t-shirt.  I don’t do the hair’n’makeup thing and generally try to look knowledgeable rather than cute.  But this afternoon, looking in the mirror, I realised that my skirt was incongruous when teamed with wispy hair and a pale face.  So I did the hair’n’makeup thing.  Not a lot of either – my hair’s up and I’ve got a bit of lipstick on – but enough that I don’t look like I just got out of bed.  And then I went to the garage.

The garage experience has never been one I enjoyed.  I’m out of my depth and trying hard not to show it.  The men (I’ve never met a female mechanic) talk a strange language and call me ‘you’, ‘Missus’ or by my Christian name.  Not this time.  They showed me what was wrong with the car and explained my options.  They called me ‘Miss Surname’ or ‘Mrs Surname’.  They were polite but not overly familiar.  They didn’t talk down to me but assumed no prior knowledge of exhaust systems (my car needs a new one, by the way) and, in short, it was actually quite a pleasant experience.  It was a congenial and efficient visit.

Tomorrow, the car is going in to have the work done.  I’ve to be there at 8:30am and am not looking forward to another early start.  But will I make the effort to look presentable?  You bet!